Receiving anal pleasure can be one of the most exquisitely orgasmic and intimate experiences one can experience.  We've covered the basics of beginning butt play here before, so now let's talk about a more advanced kind of buttsex experience:  pegging.

Pegging refers to the act of a woman penetrating her male partner's ass with a strap-on dildo/harness set-up.  Many men find this idea to be incredibly enticing, and who could blame them?  The combination of physical sensation and exchange of power is a powerful turn-on, and one that I heartily recommend to every willing dude.

Some worry that the desire for anal play indicates a denied or subconscious wish for gay sex.  This is nothing but a myth.  The type of sexual stimulation we like has nothing to do with the type of person with whom we want to be in a relationship.  While male-receptive anal sex has long been thought of as an activity practiced only by gay men, the fact of the matter is that many straight men also enjoy the feelings it brings.

Pegging will be more fun for everyone if it's worked into gradually.  Here are some tips for the best pegging experience:

• Shop together for a harness. Consider it pre-foreplay. A good choice for a beginner is a complete harness kit, as it includes all the equipment needed for a good time. You'll have the most luck with something that offers room for adjustment around the wearer's legs and waist for maximum comfort and control.  A harness that allows its O-ring to be swapped out for different sized rings will allow for the use of other dongs when desired. 

• Use the dong on the male partner by hand before trying it in a brand new harness.  You'll have much more control over the proceedings if the dildo is hand-driven; this will allow the receptive partner a slower, safer and more comfortable experience.

• Try a pegging test-run first.  The harness wearer will need a few moment to adjust her harness, and everyone will need a chance to try out positions before things start heating up. Proper positioning can be the difference between a great and a horrible experience, especially when one or both partners are beginners.  With everyone's clothes on, experiment with a few likely positions to find one (or two) that look promising.  If necessary, track down cushions to help with height adjustments.

• Spend plenty of time warming up before penetration begins.  Oral sex?  You bet.  Vaginal intercourse?  Certainly.  Any sexy stuff that gets partners relaxed and happy will be appreciated once the pegging starts.

• Use lots of quality lube.  Drugstore lube just won't cut it for buttsex.  Stick with something like Sliquid or Liquid Silk, both of which have the power to stay slick through lots of sex.  Be prepared to reapply if things get less than comfortable.  Especially for beginners, lots of lube is an absolute must.

• Start slowly.  Using a harness gives less control than what you'd have with a hand-driven dildo, so respect the learning curve and your partner's body.  

• Be ready to stop if things get too intense or uncomfortable.  A safe word would not be remiss.  If the female partner is very turned on by the act (enhanced perhaps by use of a tiny bullet vibe nestled between the labia), she will need to be especially aware of her partner's body-language and wishes.  Pay attention and stop immediately if asked.

• Have a towel or wipes ready for post-sex clean up.  Remember to withdraw the dong slowly to avoid pain and reduce the chance of poo making an appearance.
  

• Cuddle after everyone has a chance to freshen up.  Save major discussions about the mechanics of pegging for later, after emotions and bodies have cooled.
  

Talk over pegging with your partner tonight, why don't you?  It just might turn out to be a hugely satisfying experience for everyone. 

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