If you've closely followed the instructions given in Part One: How to Have Buttsex...More Than Once--congratulations! You are ready to move on to Part 2.

Eventually your bottom will decide that this buttfucking thing is pretty damn cool. Your bottom will begin sending you little mental greeting cards with messages like "You are the best. I love you. Will you fuck me tonight?" Respond appropriately. Step it up a notch. Find a larger toy that more approximates the size and shape of a penis. This one is nice, but there are a vast number of alternatives from which to choose. Find one that makes your bottom quiver with lust.

At some point, whether it is days, weeks or even months after your first forays into buttplay, you will compare your latest toy to your lover and realize that if you are comfortable with the size of your toy, you will also be comfortable with the size of your lover.

I'm hoping that by this point you have the kind of relationship with your lover where you won't worry that the world will fall apart if the buttsex goes awry. I had complete confidence in the one person (to date) whom I have allowed to enjoy the pleasures of my bottom; before the buttsex was even under discussion, he'd proven himself to be warm, calm, kind, accepting and all those other lovely characteristics that showed me that he'd accept and even love that part of my body no matter what little tricks it might play on us.

Buttsex seemed--and still seems--far more intimate than vaginal sex. It's not something I'd do with just anyone. It boils down (for me) to the fear of two things: Pain and poo.

The fear of pain and the fear of poo may make you very cautious when you decide to give your ass. If you have any question about your partner's ability to deal with either your pain or your poo, you should probably hold off.

When at last your ass begs you to fill it with actual (as opposed to inanimate) cock, choose a night when there is utterly no rush. Assemble the necessary supplies and then have fun together. Only after you've both gotten completely worked up (and had many orgasms already, if you can) should you think about the butt. Have your partner use a condom. Lube, then lube again, both your behind and his cock. Then add more lube. Really, you can't have too much.

I've preferred buttsex in the doggy-style position because it lets me both relax into the bed and also push back against my partner. I like to be very very still as he gently enters me, a millimeter at a time. Here's where trust is so important. You must be able to trust that he'll go as slowly as you need him to, and that he'll stop if you want him to. If you can't trust absolutely that he'll do this, then you've got some conversing to do before you lube up, sister.

Have your partner stand behind you and very...very...very slowly nudge his cockhead into your ass and then pause. You will feel extremely stretched when he enters you. You may also feel the need to poo. You almost certainly don't need to poo; that's just the confused message your behind is sending to your brain. Breathe out slowly and keep calm. The feeling will pass.

If it hurts for more than a moment, add more lube. Ask your partner to go even slower. If it's still uncomfortable, congratulate yourselves for a good first effort, clean up, then turn your attention to other fun activities.

Remember...there is no rush. There are no prizes for buttfucking successfully on the first attempt. Just try again another night.

If you can relax with your partner's cockhead inside of, it's time to move deeper. Push back gently onto your partner. As the butt-fuckee, you get to control the pace. Really, once your body has accepted his head, it will probably be more than happy to take the rest of his cock.

That's why you practiced on your own for so long. Remember?

Once you've assured yourself that you can take your partner's entire cock without the world coming to an end, it is time to turn over the responsibility for thrusting to him. You trust that he'll stop if you ask, right? And that he'll pay attention for signs of distress on your part, eh?

'Cause if you have any questions about those two things, you shouldn't even be thinking about giving him your ass.

If you are enjoying having your butt taken by your partner, experiment by gently tilting your pelvis. This should allow him to hit yourgspot harder, which is REALLY REALLY NICE. You can also try slowing down and then squeezing with the same muscles you contract during aKegel.

He'll probably love it.

If you get close to coming (I so hope that you do!) you can try pushing out when the orgasm approaches. This may make you gush. Or it might not. Either way, it'll be a different and interesting sensation for both you and your partner.

Your partner should NOT pull out of you without warning. If he's ready to pull out, either before or after orgasm, he should do it very very gently. Plan on going twice as slowly as you think you should. Jerking it out will be painful and potentially messy.

The second the cock comes out, it's nice to have a dark towel nearby for a quick wipe-up and for condom removal. Just a once-over will suffice for now. After you've regained your senses and cuddled for a bit, then you can clean up more thoroughly in the bathroom.

The fuckee gets first choice on who goes first.

Once clean, you both must return to bed for additional cuddling. Forgo any discussions of the raw mechanics of what just transpired. You can do that later, after everyone's emotions have settled down. Just cuddle, and talk, and touch, and maybe move on to more sex.

Or maybe, if you're both so inclined, it'll be his turn to experience the pleasures of buttsex.